By Chelsey Jo
A few years ago I decided to be more positive. To smile each time I got an
email with “ASAP” in the subject line. In the beginning I adopted the wise
Fake it till you make it.
I also got into watching TED Talks where I discovered a really interesting
study on the correlation between body language and confidence. Social
psychologist Amy Cuddy shared her research on how “power posing” —
standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident —
can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have
an impact on our chances for success.
A little ritual helped me put her ideas into practice. Every morning when I
got to work and got myself a cup of coffee I’d stand Wonder-Woman-style
in front of the break room’s giant floor-to-ceiling window. Breathing deeply,
from the fifth floor of 100 Washington, I surveyed all of Downtown
Minneapolis. Trust me, that ritual will make any cup of coffee taste like
molten nectar. (I bet that’s what Zeus drinks every morning.) I did this for
two full minutes, as often as I could, maybe three or four times a week.
Little by little things started to change. I took on more responsibility with
less stress, let drama roll off my back, and eventually and most importantly
—I got the heck out of that place! I realized I didn’t want to be there and
found my little north-woods-niche where I’m tenfold happier and healthier.
Speaking of faking confidence—I’m reminded of and old car I used to have.
It’s less than beautiful sun spots. It’s rusting belly and phantom locks. The
ever threatening leaky transmission fluid...
It always tried it’s best.
I knew this, and I let it know I knew this! With gracious patience I washed it
by hand, I draped the seats in purple fabric to cheer it up, I kept the
accumulation of cat hair down, I even had a recycling bin within easy
access. I tried my best to exhibit that from point A to point B—I appreciated
I imagined myself handing it off to my little sister someday, taking her aside
whispering, “If you call this car a piece of crap – it’ll feel like one, and when
we feel like crap we act like it.” I don’t believe that all inanimate objects
have souls—but I do believe in thoughts, words, and actions.
The moral of this story: beware of the words you put out there. Actions are
powerful. It’s hard to dispute that, but don’t forget that thoughts have an
impact and words can be just as commanding. There’s a reason we call
some of them curses.
Try to think respectfully and speak words of kindness today. Even if you
might not want to. Just try your best and if you’re ready to pay attention—
you’ll probably like the outcome.
Fake it ’till ya make it, friends, and watch that TED Talk here. I really
♡ Chelsey Jo | Creative, LightHeartLiving.com
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